Much has been written about how I became a wedding planner, but I don't think that anyone (myself included) has ever really addressed the why. And sometimes, "the why" is the most important thing.
I once heard Jes Gordon, an event designer out of New York, say that she believes creative people come from difficult places. When she said that it I wrote it down, and have returned to it many times. It connected to something inside of me, and I believe that it is at the root of why I do what I do.
Everyone...everyone!...has faced some sort of challenge in their life. And some happiness. We have all had a sense of love and of loss. Some of us have endured things that border on the unimagineable, and others have had private struggles that linger. Who am I to judge someone else's hardships or happiness?
What I have learned through my own personal struggles is this: Life is long, and filled with both the good and the bad. It's easy to allow the things that hurt to creep in and change the way that we life, but that's so against everything that makes sense and matters. Life is worth living, and worth living well. We can never escape the "hard" or the "meh" or the truly devestating moments. But what gets us through those moments and move us to the next are the memories of the past and the promise of beautiful times ahead.
And so, it is within that belief that I have set out to make the world a little bit more beautiful, for myself and for others. I want to change people by giving them moments of amazement, with something that they have never seen before, and creating a place that allows them to step away from whatever problems they have and simply revel in love and light and promise.
Every couple that has hired me as their wedding planner has, for at least some time, become my friends. We have shared things with each other, and I have learned about them and been touched by them in ways that I cannot even begin to explain. We have laughed together, cried together, and each one of them has taught me something about moving forward and finding the light. I fall in love with these couples and their stories, together and as individuals, and as we get to know each other my desire to give them a moment that superceeds every other moment grows.
That's why I do what I do. I want to give people the change to experience something in a way that would not have existed were it not for me. I want to lock eyes with my brides and grooms, and have just an instant of a connection. I want guests to escape their own reality for a second and view the world through my eyes....
And selfishly, and I want to get lost in that moment, too. My job gives me the chance to live perpetually in a moment of promise, to move past the bad and the sad and the hurt and the hard, and lose myself in the hope of the first look, the first kiss, and that first dance.
My "why" fuels me and moves me every day. And so I challenge you to ask yourself the same question. Not only in wedding planning (as in, why am I asking for mason jars? ) but in life.
Because in the end, it's always the "why" that matters.