Balance by Reverie Retreats | Mentor Andrea Eppolito
"Balance is bullshit..." So said I on a panel at the Balance Reverie Retreat.
How could I possibly say that? Well, it may not have been the most elegant thing I have ever said, but I don't believe in the idea of balance in a traditional sense. Too many of us stress ourselves out trying to achieve this mystical, and mythical, sense of yogi-like balance. We imagine this place where our minds are serene, our hearts are clear, and where we are in tune with our most authentic self...
Blah blah blah and yadda yadda yadda. It's a lie. It doesnt' exist in a perfect way. I believe it to be impossible.
And that, my friends, is why I love and adore Erica Powell with all my might!
As the founder of both The Reverie Gallery and The Reverie Retreat, Erica is not only a platinum wedding planner, she is also an entrepreneur, wedding taste-maker, brand influencer, mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend. Her plate is full and her cup runneth over in ever sense of the word. But she somehow looks beyond herself into the world, and thinks, "We could be better."
Erica believes that the pursuit of balance is important. For her, balance is an individual and ongoing pursuit, unique and different for each business owner. Erica knows that perfection can never been attained, but that the beauty is in the pursuit of it. Her idea of balance is one that allows business owners the ability to live life more in line with their own values and priorities.
When she invited me to be a mentor and a coach, along with a designer, for the Balance Reverie Retreat I was honored. But balance? I know business. I know life. I know resilience and messy. Kids and deadlines. I know couples and friends. Sticky hands, late nights, and bottomless coffee. Not necessarily the vision of balance, but as someone who believes you learn more when you seek to teach, I was in. And I have never been prouder of the work I did in those days at the Camelback Sanctuary in Scottsdale Arizona.
I learned quite a bit at the Balance Reverie Retreat 2016 that will be put into practice to make my business, my client's experience, and my life better. For example, Erica ran us through dream-scaping exercises that have helped me clarify my goals, and taught me techniques that I will use to help my couples clarify their vision for their day. Brian Leahy shared networking tips and gave important insight into managing social media so that you can communicate who you are more clearly. I learned life hacks from my new bestie and the owner of both Meldeen and Garment Exchange, Kaleigh Wiese. My friends from Cameron & Kelly Photography were on hand, and I got to see the world through their lens and a whole new set of eyes. Will Talamelli worked video, venue reps talked about their challenges, creative partners expressed their visions and explained their view points. I never went to camp, but this is kinda what I imagine it would have felt like. You go in, knowing no one, and practically overnight you have a bunk full of besties, a family, a crew, and a place that feels safe.
So in the end, I guess the most important thing I learned is that Balance is Bullshit, if you say it is! The truth is, balance looks and feels different for everybody. For me? It's not so much balance that I seek, but control. Erica calls it being "conscious". I don't know exactly what the best word to use is, but I do know how it feels when I have control over my days, and when I have the ability to use that control and consciousness to impact other people' slices in a really beautifully, lasting way. When I combine control and consciousness, I can move through the world in a more peaceful way.
And so maybe perfect balance is unattainable, but personal balance is something we can all achieve if we have the courage to design it for ourselves.
Thank you to my partners and friends at By Dzign for sponsoring the beautiful welcome reception and, the stage from which we all spoke. The grey, slate stone tones were an ideal match for the earthy environment of Camelback Sanctuary, and the individual terrariums were adorable!
Thank you to my partners and friends for working along side me to design and execute the final night's Gala! Ashley Schnippel and I have been dying to do something green and white forever, and the beautiful backdrop of the Royal Palms gave us the perfect opportunity!
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