Ask Andrea ~ Save the Date Etiquette
Wedding Planner Andrea Eppolito Offers her advise...
Q: More than 80% of our guest list is from out of town. I want to send out Save the Date cards, but I'm not sure when to send them. Do they have to match our invitations? Can we put our web site information on? Or our registry? I'm sure that there is some etiquette involved here. I just don't know what's proper! ~ RC
A: Save the Date Cards are a wonderful addition to your stationary suite, and can be very helpful in guiding guests through the process of planning for your wedding. Typically sent about 6 months prior to the wedding, they do not need to match your theme or invitations. However, it is a lovely way to introduce your motif to guests, and is typically the first glimpse into your wedding that friends and family will receive.
There are few hard and fast rules that apply to anything anymore, but adhering to a level of etiquette and formality right from the start does make everything about your wedding feel just a bit more special. And that's what we all want, isn't it?
Top 5 Tips for Sending Save the Dates to Guests
1. Plan to send your Save the Date Cards out approximately 6 months prior to your wedding date. Be sure to include the date, time, and location of your wedding.
2. While I love the idea of keeping the Save the Date cards in line with the full stationary suite, couples who wish to step outside of tradition and express themselves absolutely have (almost) full reign here! Engagement photos, icons, to the local landmark of a destination wedding can all be used to introduce your guests to the unique elements of your wedding and story.
3. While RSVP and registry information is inappropriate information to put on a card or magnet, you should feel free to include a link to your personal wedding web site.
4. Remember to send Save the Date cards to everyone on your guest list, including your parents, siblings, and bridal party. Sure, they may already know the basic details, but excluding them can lead to hurt feelings and confusion. Plus, many of your friends and family will want to use this as a keepsake, especially if your Save the Date comes in the form of a magnet, luggage tag, or other useful item.
5. Finally, be certain that you only send Save the Date cards to people you intend to invite to the wedding. As with invitations to engagement parties, showers, and other wedding activities, notification and inclusion in the process leading up to the wedding tells the recipient that they will be included in the main event. For that reason, be sure to have your guest list confirmed before sending out Save the Dates or any other formal notices of engagement and wedding plan!